Guys: See Sex and the City and Learn

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Guys: See Sex and the City and Learn

May 30, 2008 by Jon Ibrahim

With the Sex and the City Juggernaut sweeping the nation I’ve noticed a lot of media writers and columnist, mostly men, defending the male position that they shouldn’t be pressured by their wives / girlfriends to go see the movie with them. At the same time they blast these same women for being dismayed if their man doesn’t want to go. I have a problem with that.

Guys, take it from me, there is nothing wrong with liking SATC. In fact, men can learn endless volumes about women from SATC. You see, Hollywood is dominated by male writers. SATC is different in that the majority of the writers for that show are female. Writers always inject a little of themselves in what they write so we’d be foolish to believe that these female writers didn’t write a little truth about what women really want, need, and experience in the four female characters. It’s the epidome of life imitating art.

The bottom line is don’t be insecure. Seeing a chick flick doesn’t mean you’re not a man. Be mature and grow a pair. There’s no downside to attending with your girl. She’ll be happy you cared enough to go with her and if you have half a brain you might even learn something.

The great sex talk doesn’t end with the blog! Every week myself and Dr. Paul Dobransky, my psychiatrist partner-in-crime, record our street smart-yet-clinical podcast “The Fireman and the Shrink”. Check out our thoughts on the SATC here:

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And don’t forget to check out my blog, “Sex 911: Confessions of a Serial Dater,” at www.nbc5.com/bettersex.

Posted in movies, Podcasts | Tagged Sex and the City | 5 Comments

5 Responses

on May 30, 2008 at 5:51 pm | Reply Reneena

I also see that point. Maybe the movie is just sending a feminist message, encouraging women to stand up on their own but not really attacking the male ego. I’m no feminist but I also don’t see the point of calculating the movie base on gender bias. True that it maybe inclined to women, but it’s about empowerment for those who need a little motivation. It’s a chick movie with chick heroes. Just as simple as that.
on May 30, 2008 at 7:13 pm | Reply Fayth

Jon – good point! I know a good deal of guys who have watched SATC and it makes for some interesting conversation and sometimes has them thinking about doing a thing or two a little differently and often for the better – hee, hee!
on May 30, 2008 at 8:12 pm | Reply prowriter0923

If it was your last day on Earth and you had to pick between going to the Sex and the City premier or sitting first row behind home plate in the Cubs or White Sox World Series game, which event would you go to?
on June 4, 2008 at 8:10 am | Reply Jon Ibrahim

A chick movie with chick heroes…I like that.

And which would I pick? The seats behind home plate, of course!!
on June 28, 2008 at 1:32 pm | Reply Girlygirl

Interesting to see a guy defending SATC and encouraging other guys to see it.

However, Jon Ibrahim should know that Michael Patrick King–a man–wrote and directed the movie, and was a big part of the writing on the show. So was Greg Berendt (also a guy, though he did not write for the film). The women who wrote on the series (including Cindy Chupak and Liz Tuccillo) had perspectives that were obviously crucial to the storylines and dialog on the tv show, but were not involved in writing for the film.

It is important to note that a MAN primarily gave the movie the words and ideas discussed in it–those which Ibrahim champions in his blog piece yet claims women wrote it. King is a gay man who grew up learning about women because he had a bunch of sisters. Ibrahim’s advice for men to go see the movie with their girlfriends and to learn something from it is valid. But what he’s admitting–without addressing that a man wrote the film–is that perspectives between men and women aren’t necessarily all that different after all. His next blog could be to convince the Men Afraid of Chick Flicks to be open to that apparent truth and to quit fighting so hard against it. Relationships would be a lot easier for both parties if men recognized things like that.